Thursday, September 30, 2010
Sad and beyond belief!
http://www.washingtonblade.com/2010/10/01/national-lgbt-community-reeling-from-4th-teen-suicide-in-a-month/
I made the first step!
Tonight I made the first step. I told somebody in my family that I was gay. The support was overwhelming. And if anything it made our bond stonger. This is a great start and I would recommend to anybody that is going through the same thing. Take one person that you are more sure of in this world that it won't matter to them about you sexual orientation and tell them the truth. It feels like 10 pounds have been lifted off my shoulders. Hopefully I will build up enough courage to let more people know. You have to start small and work your way up. It may not always turn out the way you want it. But I think that 90 percent of your family will be ok with it. I certainly hope so.
~Looking
~Looking
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
It gets Better!
http://www.youtube.com/itgetsbetterproject
I found the above project while researching about the anti bullying special CNN is running. It is a wonderful site of users just like you and me that are saying the same message. It does get better. I have listened to many of the stories that they have posted. And I encourage any of my readers that read this to go and watch some of these videos and even post their own if they wish to do so.
~Looking
I found the above project while researching about the anti bullying special CNN is running. It is a wonderful site of users just like you and me that are saying the same message. It does get better. I have listened to many of the stories that they have posted. And I encourage any of my readers that read this to go and watch some of these videos and even post their own if they wish to do so.
~Looking
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Prayers for Bobby / Teen suicide prevention
This movie was brought to my attention the other day by someone. I posted a clip below. I have yet to watch the movie but from the clips available online it is one that I think everybody should watch. It also brings to my attention another issue that we are facing. Because a lot of us are not ready to come out or don't understand the feelings we feel, you may not know that we are gay. So when you say hurtful things you may be hurting the person you are talking to. What if some kid who is gay overhears you say some hurtful thing about gay people. Better yet, what if just like in the movie below you kid was gay and you said these hurtful things. I would hope that you would support your unconditionally. What if after you said that hurtful thing, your kid goes and hangs himself or commits suicide. I think back now and I can only hope that the people I bullied when I was a kid ,struggling with my feelings, didn't drive them to do something bad.
It can happen. It really can. Take for example this story. http://carloz.newsvine.com/_news/2010/09/14/5110767-15-year-old-indiana-boy-commits-suicide-over-anti-gay-bullying It is about a boy in Indiana who was bullied by his classmates for being different. He never even said he was gay. But he couldn't take it any more after a student told him "He didn't deserve to live" and that "he was a piece of crap.".
I remember what I went through as a teen. I remember wishing there were people I could talk to. But around here, people are so against being a homosexual that teens are afraid to talk to anybody. They are afraid of rejection and being bullied if anybody ever found out.
I hope and pray that before the next time you start to say something about homosexuality. Look around the room and think of who you might secretly hurt. The ones you care about and love. By your comment you could be ultimately responsible for their hurt and pain. They will feel rejected by you and will feel that they can't talk to you about not only their being gay but also anything else. Maybe they won't tell you if they are being bullied. The only way that you would find out is when that officer comes and knocks on your door and says sir/madam we need to talk about your child. They are dead. And when you learn the reason why, you will be crushed. Not only because they are now dead, but because you could have prevented it by being more accepting and open minded. If they hadn't felt rejected by you then maybe they would have said something to you and you could of helped them through it.
Again just something to think about the next time you feel the need to say hurtful comments in front of somebody. You never know who it might hurt and for you to not mean for it too.
~Looking
It can happen. It really can. Take for example this story. http://carloz.newsvine.com/_news/2010/09/14/5110767-15-year-old-indiana-boy-commits-suicide-over-anti-gay-bullying It is about a boy in Indiana who was bullied by his classmates for being different. He never even said he was gay. But he couldn't take it any more after a student told him "He didn't deserve to live" and that "he was a piece of crap.".
I remember what I went through as a teen. I remember wishing there were people I could talk to. But around here, people are so against being a homosexual that teens are afraid to talk to anybody. They are afraid of rejection and being bullied if anybody ever found out.
I hope and pray that before the next time you start to say something about homosexuality. Look around the room and think of who you might secretly hurt. The ones you care about and love. By your comment you could be ultimately responsible for their hurt and pain. They will feel rejected by you and will feel that they can't talk to you about not only their being gay but also anything else. Maybe they won't tell you if they are being bullied. The only way that you would find out is when that officer comes and knocks on your door and says sir/madam we need to talk about your child. They are dead. And when you learn the reason why, you will be crushed. Not only because they are now dead, but because you could have prevented it by being more accepting and open minded. If they hadn't felt rejected by you then maybe they would have said something to you and you could of helped them through it.
Again just something to think about the next time you feel the need to say hurtful comments in front of somebody. You never know who it might hurt and for you to not mean for it too.
~Looking
Monday, September 27, 2010
Welcome to Gays of Kentucky United Support Group.
Once again welcome to all that have come to view this page. I started this blog because of my struggle with my true identity of being a homosexual for many years. It is not easy being gay in Kentucky as many people have not come to accept homosexuality. I can understand this as I have struggled myself. So let me tell you a little about myself.
I have struggled with my feelings ever since I was a kid. I know that some people think that this is impossible as a kid should not be able to feel such feelings yet. But trust me I did. I was never exposed to anybody who was gay. And I wasn't sexually abused as a child. I came about these feelings on my own. In fact until recently I still believed that such feelings were wrong. I have fought these feelings off for many years because of this. Only in the past year have I been able to accept it fully. I am now 20 years old. So you can imagine the struggle I have been through for the past 10+ years. I have not publicly come out as of yet though. I am not comfortable talking about this to anyone using my real identity except for people experiencing the same thing. I think it would have a negative impact on not only my professional life but my personal life as well. My family is old fashioned and set in their ways. But I am slowly opening their eyes to this without letting them know that I myself am homosexual.
The purpose of this blog really is to not only create a support group for people all over Kentucky where we can come together and talk about our experiences without being afraid of public backlash. But to also educate the public on this issue. Knowledge is power.
I do have a few requirements about this blog. If you do comment please use some common sense when doing so. I will not tolerate abusive remarks being posted. If you threaten anybody on here you will be reported to the proper authorities. Also keep in mind that you can voice your opinion as this is the United States of America and I will uphold everybody's right to free speech. Just because a comment is something I may not wish to read I will not delete it as long as it is not in a threatening manner. For example if you say that "homosexuality is wrong and immoral" I will not delete this as that is an opinion of the poster and it is their right to post that if that is what they feel. But if a poster post "all queers should be hanged". That is of a threatening manner and I will delete it. If I feel that it is a direct threat and not an opinion I will also report it. Which also beings me to my next rule. Under no circumstance is any poster allowed to use racist or derogatory remarks IE: nigger, faggot, well you know what they are. That will also be deleted.
I do hope that you enjoy this blog as it is to help people just like me. Feel free to message me if you have any questions or concerns that you want addressed. I also have a secondary forum that I am working on. And I will personally send invites to those of you interested. However it will be of a private nature and not of an opinionated blog. It will be a safe heaven of sorts to talk where all the members will be understanding. And we can help each other. Depression and suicide are two big concerns of mine about people going thorough a situation like mine. I am a very strong willed person but there are others where the burden becomes to great. If you feel you need to talk please contact me and I will try and help talk you through what you are going through.
Well that is all for now but I hope to post everyday or at least every other day. As we become more acquainted I may ask some of the more trusted individuals to help out with this as with all the projects I have going on right now it can get very busy for me. But this is an issue I hold personal to me and I will make time to talk to anybody who wishes to do so.
Thank you all,
Looking in London
I have struggled with my feelings ever since I was a kid. I know that some people think that this is impossible as a kid should not be able to feel such feelings yet. But trust me I did. I was never exposed to anybody who was gay. And I wasn't sexually abused as a child. I came about these feelings on my own. In fact until recently I still believed that such feelings were wrong. I have fought these feelings off for many years because of this. Only in the past year have I been able to accept it fully. I am now 20 years old. So you can imagine the struggle I have been through for the past 10+ years. I have not publicly come out as of yet though. I am not comfortable talking about this to anyone using my real identity except for people experiencing the same thing. I think it would have a negative impact on not only my professional life but my personal life as well. My family is old fashioned and set in their ways. But I am slowly opening their eyes to this without letting them know that I myself am homosexual.
The purpose of this blog really is to not only create a support group for people all over Kentucky where we can come together and talk about our experiences without being afraid of public backlash. But to also educate the public on this issue. Knowledge is power.
I do have a few requirements about this blog. If you do comment please use some common sense when doing so. I will not tolerate abusive remarks being posted. If you threaten anybody on here you will be reported to the proper authorities. Also keep in mind that you can voice your opinion as this is the United States of America and I will uphold everybody's right to free speech. Just because a comment is something I may not wish to read I will not delete it as long as it is not in a threatening manner. For example if you say that "homosexuality is wrong and immoral" I will not delete this as that is an opinion of the poster and it is their right to post that if that is what they feel. But if a poster post "all queers should be hanged". That is of a threatening manner and I will delete it. If I feel that it is a direct threat and not an opinion I will also report it. Which also beings me to my next rule. Under no circumstance is any poster allowed to use racist or derogatory remarks IE: nigger, faggot, well you know what they are. That will also be deleted.
I do hope that you enjoy this blog as it is to help people just like me. Feel free to message me if you have any questions or concerns that you want addressed. I also have a secondary forum that I am working on. And I will personally send invites to those of you interested. However it will be of a private nature and not of an opinionated blog. It will be a safe heaven of sorts to talk where all the members will be understanding. And we can help each other. Depression and suicide are two big concerns of mine about people going thorough a situation like mine. I am a very strong willed person but there are others where the burden becomes to great. If you feel you need to talk please contact me and I will try and help talk you through what you are going through.
Well that is all for now but I hope to post everyday or at least every other day. As we become more acquainted I may ask some of the more trusted individuals to help out with this as with all the projects I have going on right now it can get very busy for me. But this is an issue I hold personal to me and I will make time to talk to anybody who wishes to do so.
Thank you all,
Looking in London
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